Cigar Shaming

Cigar Shaming- Attempting to make someone feel ashamed of smoking or smoking cigars.



As the saying goes.  "Ain't no shame in my game".

Have you ever dated someone or was interested in someone, but they did not care too much for your cigar enthusiasm? Did they attempt to make you feel ashamed for liking cigars? Did you even care about their perception towards smoking cigars? Or did you think that, basically, they could just get lost? Did you ever consider compromising with this person? Or did you feel like this person was worth tossing cigars to the side? I mean after all, a cigar can't keep you warm at night, right? Wrong. I beg to differ. Just ask Monica Lewinsky. Just kidding. 

Anyway, 1) Don't attempt to make me feel ashamed. I have no shame at all, actually. 2) I really like cigars, a whole lot more than some people.

And if someone feels that they do not want to get to know me, because I smoke cigars, then that's their issue. Not mine. Maybe there had been a really hot guy and I compromised for a short time. But that's it. That was a long time ago. I didn't know any better. And in your case, if there is a really hot woman, you may have compromised a bit. This compromise is simply temporary, of course. Because you don't really plan on never smoking cigars again!

My significant other smoke cigars and I smoke cigars. And its a match made in heaven, if you ask me. I love cigars. He likes cigars. It's perfect. If there is one cigar left in the humidor, I will probably get it! :)

Other people's hang ups do not belong to me. And that has been a motto that I have lived by. It keeps me happy. And it keeps me sane. Because we can't really please everyone. People will like us or dislike us for some reason or another. And I prefer people to like me for me being me. I will change because it makes me better, not simply because it's what someone wants of me.

I remember when I was out a few years ago, and this guy walked up to me. I pulled a cigar out and he turned up his nose and told me that its not cool for women to smoke. 

He should not have said that to me. My thoughts were... 1) I did ask him for his opinion. 2) I guess I am not cool then. And I guess I am not a lady. So I am going to enjoy being totally not cool and unladylike. I will leave that for another woman to set that bar. 3) I was not interested in him. He wasn't my type.  4) "Go away. I do not need your validation. Go validate someone else."

But anyway, I think I turned up my nose and said to him. "I enjoy cigars and I will continue smoking them".

The point is that, there are people out there that want you to feel ashamed for smoking. And I do not subscribe to that. We will always be reshaping ourselves if we live off other people's validation. And that's not cool.  So someone else's  perception means very little to me. Anyway, there is a entire world of cigar smokers out there. So something has to be right if we exist in a world of our very own.

I have found that those that shame smokers are especially critical towards women smokers. And maybe I am far more resistant because of that. My environment and social network for years have shamed women who smoke. How many times have we heard someone say that women who smoke are unladylike? And maybe the criticism has been mostly towards women cigarette smokers. But it still isn't right. But in their minds, both are the same.

And now, celebrity women smokers are sharing their cigar enjoyment with the world. Maybe some of these misconceptions have been changing. But there is still an environment that is hostile and vicious towards smokers all together. And they are fighting with lawmakers every day in hopes of snuffing out smokers and tobacco use.

Shame on these Cigar Shamers. Many of them are uneducated about cigar enjoyment. And if they would just open their eyes and their minds,  they could develop an understanding of why this world of cigar enthusiasm exist and why we persist in-spite of their cigar shaming and prejudices.